Effective Ways of handling difficult people

We've all been there dealing with difficult people in school, work and also family. How are we supposed to respond to these inevitable situations? For most of us, we'd rather avoid this kind of people at all cost.

It is sometimes not possible to avoid them if especially they are family or colleagues that we have to work closely with. So what do you do in such awkward situations?

I will list down some traits of difficult people and if you fall in either of the categories first admit and resolve to work towards a positive change! difficult isn't it? yes I know it's not easy but the journey to personal growth comes with pain.

There is one phrase used in all gym's that I really like "No pain no gain"

This also applies in personal growth if you really want to see positive changes in your life.

Let's dive into this:-

Control Freaks

This type of people believe they are always right and when you want to do things your way they overly control and they can be a source of irritation. They take charge in all situations without taking the opinions of others.

Perfectionists

They have an irrational belief that the way they do things is the best and others should follow suit. If you fail to meet up with their unrealistic standards they get very upset and irritated.

Creatives

They are good at generating ideas but are poor at delivering results.

Shapers

They are action-oriented but they can seem to take over as seem fit to them.

Aggressive or defensive people.

Aggressive or defensive people can have a negative effect, especially in groups dynamics.

Assertion is the opposite of the two and the better option.

Submissive people

These people are driven by fear of failure and they lack confidence and this can also be a source of frustration.

The next important step would be to identify the issue and looking inward to analyze your triggers, and reactions, this can help you to prepare and to be self-aware when they arise.

Instead of focusing on why some people are very difficult, it's good to take control of our reactions.

Let's check on some techniques:-

Use Kindness When two people are difficult with each other the situation often escalates and it becomes worse. The best way to deal with difficult people is to use lots of kindness it diffuses the situation and you end up getting off most of what you want.

Be Compassionate

Sometimes the other person could be going through a difficult ordeal and been compassionate could be a helpful tool to employ in such situations.

Most of the times when one shows compassion to a person going through a tough ordeal you'll find that the other person responds positively. Next time apply this tool you'll be surprised at the results!

Apply Respect

Everyone wants to be treated respectfully irrespective of who they are so when dealing with a difficult person always treat them with some level of respect. Nobody likes to be treated like they are foolish or incompetent.

Treating people disrespectfully will only trigger negativity and make the other person not want anything to assist you. Always apply the common saying when dealing with difficult people "treat other people the way you would want them to treat you."

Stay Calm

When the situation is emotionally charged it's good to take your cool and monitor your breathing by taking deep breaths.

This might not be easy but it does get the other person to vent out and release their anger. Avoid getting caught up in the heat because this triggers negative emotions.

Avoid "I statements"

Instead, ask the other person to explain so that you can understand their situation better. Listen more than talk it makes the situation far much easier.

Examine Yourself inward

If you notice that people are continually attacking you it could be you are attracting the wrong type of people. Try to engage with friends who engage in positive behaviour.

If you'd negative experiences in the past it's good to examine what your role was. What were your actions towards the negative behaviour?

It's important to be aware of your own strengths and weakness so that you are equipped to handle difficult people in the future.

Bottomline

Difficult people are everywhere and it's good to note that you too can be difficult. Many times we don't act our best but it's good to develop some negotiation strategies to maintain a relationship with difficult people.

This is a journey that one has to be intentional to improve on because relationships are basically "Life".

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