Are You Lost ? You Need to find Yourself

You're lost and you are afraid to admit that you are a stranger to yourself? It's a good path when you look at it critically on the two sides of the coin. The fact that you are aware you are lost, is a great place to be because you will work towards finding yourself.

The truth is that most of us walk through life not knowing who we really are. It's time to confront your fears and ask yourself; what makes you happy? What do you love doing?

If you are plagued with such questions then you have to deal with difficult but crucial questions continually. However, difficult these questions may sound they push you to have a better understanding of ourself.

Why find yourself? The truth is that you will never answer all your questions and there is no point because life is not a perfect puzzle! When your purpose is unknown other external factors will define you. Your strengths and abilities which are natural and learned will not find expression.

There is a lot of self-worth when one's purpose is known though it's not easy to find yourself. The journey of finding yourself is full of tons of trial and error.

Here are some steps that can guide you in finding yourself.

Ok, let's dive in

Be Honest to Yourself

When we believe in a lie about ourselves we feel comfortable and we hide in a shell of self-deception. It could be small lies like telling ourselves we're eating healthy when we have no serious intention of doing so.

Why do we do so? Naturally, human beings are masters of self-deception we fool ourselves into believing things that are false. This lie has some temporarily feel-good emotion but we don't realize at the core we are lying to ourselves.

This facade kind of living happens because we don't have the psychological strength to admit the truth, and we fear the aftermath consequences that follow. It's also dangerous because it's exhaustive because one lacks inner authenticity.

Self-deception is expressed in our thinking, behaviours, emotional reactions, relationships, and beliefs. Anytime we lack self-awareness it's both dangerous to us and to the people around us because we deny ourselves authenticity.

If you want to find yourself first be honest to yourself. Admit you are lost, and stop lying of what you want, feel and the way you project yourself to the world. After admitting embark on the journey of practising inner authenticity continually.

Admit who You are Truly, not What you Want to be

I know you have a set mind of who you want to become, because of the self-deception but unfortunately, that's not who you were designed to be. That's why it's important to know yourself because this awareness drives you to where your skills set fit perfectly.

The hard truth is that you will do trial and error in this journey which is quite normal but the best way to begin is to take a personality test. Personality can change largely influenced by life situations and as we mature. Take one if you have not over a period of several years.

You can be in doubt and ask yourself; are these personality test evaluations accurate? The answer I would give is that at least they point out the top of your strengths and so you are able to focus on the change needed.

Personally, I did one recently and I found out that mine had changed with time compared to one I had taken like three years back. The more I serve others in my area of strengths and my life experiences both good and bad influence these changes.

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others!

Acknowledge what makes you different

Guess what? In this whole universe, we are all unique isn't that intriguing? Absolutely! therefore it's important to take time to find and celebrate what makes you unique?

What is that one thing that makes you different from everyone else? though sometimes it's not easy to identify, because we are often so critical of ourselves and we compare ourselves with other people.

Instead of been weighed down by comparison of others it's good to celebrate your uniqueness and list down like ten traits that you are proud of. Really? yes if you allow yourself to be happy you'll realize you'll be happy in all areas of your life.

Ok, let's do this checklist; it could be your kindness, loyalty or communication! It's always easy to lean on the negative traits and discount the good things. By understanding who you are, banishes the negatives and helps you to accept yourself.

To be beautiful means to accept yourself and to define yourself, you don't need to be accepted by others. If you crave acceptance and recognition of others you will suffer all your life. True power and true happiness lie in a self-acceptance life and having confidence in yourself.

Find New Ways of Doing Things

Rather than continuing doing things the same way and expecting different results, set yourself in discovering success by trying to live your life in new and intentional ways.

Be curious about what is around you and been present when people talk to you. Ask yourself hard questions like why you are the way you are and be ready to be confronted with answers you might not like.

Once you confront things that you don't like its easier to pick the things you like and focus on making them part of the new ways of being. Fully embracing your weakness is the only way of improving them and being honest of what they are, will help you to adjust for the better.

It is important to note that growth occurs when you accept your weakness. For me, I use to relentless avoid the negativity that existed within me! But I realized avoiding made it worse, it's only when I learned to practice acceptance l was able to experience, some positive growth.

What is that thing that you are avoiding? Accept it and confront it that's the only way you will experience the growth required to see a positive change.

Identify what brings joy to your life

When you identify your passions and the things that make you feel alive, then it's important to put more focus on those things. Ask yourself questions like; What makes you happy? At what moments do you feel most alive?

When you find out what ignites your soul its easier to engineer your life to produce those moments more often.

Identify what gives you power in the world

In order to understand your place in the world, you need to understand the power within you to make a change that will last long.

If you want to know who you are, you need to constantly tap into the inner power within and use it often to challenge situations, people and opportunities. Another thing to employ is to take responsibility for your life.

The fact is that many of us think that we have taken responsibility for our lives but, it's a skill that has to be learned and developed even to the people who have achieved success.

Ask for Feedback

Sometimes those closest to us can see something that we might not see. If you do not know who you are it's helpful to hear what others say. Ask them questions like; what strengths do you think l need to develop further? and what weakness do l need to work on?

Sometimes there feedback might not be perfect, but you will be able to pick some indicators of a few areas that you will look into keenly.

In conclusion

When you know yourself you will find more peace and find quicker success than ever before. To find yourself is not enough but you must live it.

Confidence and reliance are the heart of finding yourself. Learn to believe in yourself and trust your own feelings and ultimately find purpose.

Now go take action and find your true self starting today!

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